
I had a conversation with a group of friends over the weekend about tipping and even though I wasn't totally in the conversation (I was really concentrating on driving the Cabot Trail), I had some thoughts.
I agree that tipping is a weird phenomenon in that it has morphed into an expectation that you tip servers rather than they have to earn their tip. For example, a waiter is paid by the restaurant for their service to customers. That is what the restaurant pays them for - but do customers have to pay tip for regular service? I agree that if the waiter is great and goes above and beyond the call of a "normal" waiter that you tip him/her. But when the service is bad and you leave no or very little tip, there is a cry from the waiter (and sometimes they run after you) moaning that you didn't leave a tip. Now, this personally hasn't happened to me as I usually leave tip, but there sure are times when I didn't want to. Perhaps I am too worried of what they will think of me the next time I return or of what they may paint of Chinese people in general (that all Chinese people are cheap).
So what to do? Off to Google I go and to my surprise, when I type in tipping etiquette, most sites are pro-tipping and on the side of servers (those who collect tip). Since I am not in a researching mood and only looked at 3 sites, I think I will create my own tipping rules for waiters (as they are the ones who I normally give tips to). Maybe I can try it out and see how it goes...
Start with 15%:
1) If I don't get served right away, in a normal situation, I will drop the tip by 5%.
2) If a server doesn't take our order in a timely way (meaning that I start feeling antsy), less another 5%.
3) If I get a different order than what I ordered and they don't give a discount on the bill - no tip! If they correct the order and give me a discount, add 5%
4) If they don't offer to refill my drink where the drinks have free re-fills, less 5%
5) If the waiter comes back more times than the standard, "how is your meal?" question, add 5%
6) If the waiter's attitude is totally off, less 10% (this will be hard to do as you don't want to further add to the bad attitude)
I think that is all I would do... the next step is to follow it!