Over the past 4 years, I have participated the forming of the LAN game on Sunday nights at our pastor's house. What started with only 3 guys has grown to a regular time of bonding for 12 guys (peaked at 16). What I found that it was a great way to meet guys who other wise you would have never spoken to.
I believe that men have this inability to connect with other men right away whereas women seem to be best friends after an initial meeting. Men need something to break that ice. Often times, that is games - any type of competitive event. Sports, board games, video games, a challenge or some sort of job that requires team work and/or competition.
On the other hand, women have told me that even though ladies can hit it off right away, it is usually based on more superficial topics and you really need to take initiative to have deeper and more meaningful conversations. True, but at least you have it easier in the context to take that initiative to go deeper.
Anyways, what are some other ways do you find that men can connect? are there things outside of competition and games?
food. everybody bonds over food. mmm...
ReplyDeleteFood is a good one, Deb. I'll have to ask Jamin about this one to see what he thinks...sports, games, wrestling, & maybe watching TV (probably sports) seem to be popular ones for the guys I know...guys definitely like to "do something" rather than "just talk".
ReplyDeleteYay for food! How about solving a problem? Or fixing something together (flat tire, leaky roof, etc).
ReplyDeleteNope. Competition and games which serve food are the only things.
ReplyDeleteHey Josh!
ReplyDeleteI just saw the link to your blog on Kirsten's blog ... i didn't know you had a blog! i started having one ... but then i realized i don't care enough to update regularly.
What helps men bond?
Working out and seeing who can develop bigger pecs, biceps, calves, etc ;)
hmmm, this seems a little stalkerish.
Darren.