Why Men Hate Going to Church

Finally I have had the chance to dig into this book. A few posts ago, I intended to put up thoughts on the book as I read along and that has been a whlie ago. Apologies to those who have been expecting a post for some time now on this subject.


I have enjoyed the first 5 or so chapters - the main thrust so far is that the church has evolved into an institution that attracts more women than men because how we do chuch is very feminine. When asked what is a good church, they would answer, "a kind, loving, community of people" - a place where women would thrive. However, this is not neccesarily something men look forward to. And I think it is important to note that the author seems to be pointing out that this is not attractive to non-believing or even to the fringe Christian men. I believe men who are mature has something else that draws them to church - Christ (and that, in my opinion is not feminine).

Murrow, the author, also points out that the age group 18-29 are missing from most churches because they share the same characteristics as most males (since our generation is being brought up in a more egalitarian society). Men and young adults share a common value - they want to be challenged, and they are not finding that in the church.

A good point so far is that the author has taken great pains to make sure that he is not in favour of a male-dominated church or a church catered to men only. He notes that there seems to be a imbalance towards women right now and that the church will correct itself to go towards a balance. He does not favour or male or female-dominated church but believes that the balance will produce a healthy church.

More thoughts to come as I read more...